Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Welcome to my Blog! This is my first post and to be quite honest, before recently publishing my first book, Now That He’s Gone, a Financial Therapist’s Guide to Life After Loss, I didn’t even know what a blog was! To those of you who just stumbled on this post, a brief introduction of myself. I am a registered securities principal and managing partner of JBT Financial LLC, a financial services firm in Bloomfield Hills, MI. I frequently speak on women’s investment issues. Over the years in my work as a financial planner, hundreds of women from 35 to 80 have come to me as an advisor. But as I quickly learned they needed me for more than financial advice. They needed me to listen to their stories, to understand the challenges they faced. That’s how I earned my honorary title, Financial Therapist. I also founded an organization called “just our girls”. Our group gathers together as sisters who have experienced a spousal loss through divorce, death or other life trauma. We emotionally support and encourage each other while learning skills for our new single life.

So, my goal for this Blog is to share stories about myself and the amazing women I meet. My hope is that every woman who suffers a life-altering loss will find comfort and support here. Hope to see you again soon!

Bev

2 comments:

Jessica said...

Hi Bev, I recently read your book and enjoyed it very much as I am right in the middle of divorce and seem to be living in a world of fear and resentment. It helped me actually make some decisions and form the intentions (you mention the Olympians have) but I am still quite stuck and just can't seem to muster the zest to follow through with some real CONSISTENT action. Any ideas for me?

Thx!!

Jessica

Beverly Tobocman said...

Hi Jessica-

I'm glad you enjoyed the book and that it helped in your current situation. I know it is beyond tough, but here are some ideas that might help you:

1-Create a dream board using magazine pictures. Have it reflect all the things in life you could possibly want for yourself.

2- Take it in small steps a day at a time in terms of the actions that have to take place in short order. Keep them in chewable bite size pieces and just make progress not perfection your mantra.

3-Find a role model in your community or in the world at large and learn about her story.

4- Above all, be patient with yourself. This paralysis will pass. It takes time and space.

You'll get there..keep us posted.

Fondly, Bev